One name members of the Fly Boy Gang are all too acquainted with is FBG Butta, and the news he recently gave is being chattered in town, so let us know what you know or have heard. You can imagine the shock when Butta revealed that he had relations with his deceased friend’s baby momma. The scandalous affair, forged from collective grief, flared the slopes of feeling and unfolded just about everywhere, challenging our notions of love and loss.
This is a tragic love story. When Butta’s friend died just like that, Butta and the mother of the child found themselves just in a void of grief. Together, they wandered the rocky terrain of grief, and in each embraced the other. The sadness, the empathy that was drawn from that shared experience, became a bond like few others.
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When Butta casually announced that he was ready for her to etch her name into his flesh, it was an incredible demonstration of how deeply invested Butta actually is. A tattoo of her name, a statement of the incredible effect she had, the one she never knew about. We take this boldness above symbolism, and create a kernel, a fire starter, for the discussion of other unorthodox methods love can take.
The reaction to Butta’s tale from the public has been a canvas that weaves together a mix of different threads. They a select few, but still some say they understand that survivors of shared grief are some of the best equipped to comfort each other. “Grief is a peculiar teacher,” says one supporter. It is almost pre-destined that you will turn to one another for solace when you have both lost someone you have loved.
And for Butta, her tale soon becomes something more than a personal narrative under a much wider societal scope. Is it ever ok to date someone who is so closely connected to a loved one that you have lost? At what point must we respect the dead and welcome new love?
The emotional landscape is just as difficult. Grief Love Guilt These relationships are a labyrinth of these three emotions in no particular order. Will love be able to grow under the specter of loss, or will it always have a phantasmal of the past trailing behind?
